Hi, we are moving to Malta soon. Lots of reasons, but to be open, I am of Maltese background but born in the UK, grew up overseas and have travelled widely throughout my life. Spent the last 15 years living in the US, California and presently NY.
My experience with everywhere I have lived is that you have to give it a chance, but go there because of something, not just because, r fr just work. For us it's family, weather, family oriented culture. I have cousins that cannot believe we are leaving NY to come to what they call "The Rock".
But it's about perspective. All they know about NY is what they see on TV and programs such as the awful sex and the city etc. that lifestyle and access is open to only the few, and for the rest it's really just a rat race. Example.. NYorkers pride themselves on how rude and harsh they are, along with the fact that they live in such a fast paced city that they don't have time to do anything.. It's go go go. That's sad when you see people work like horses, get taxed at really high rates, pay for health care etc etc and then have barely enough to do much other than drink.
Don't get me wrong, I loved it here, but my wife and I are now at a stage when we want to start a family, have mates, not just acquaintances, and a slightly more relaxed mode.
Malta can be rude, it can be hostile at times, and it is beaurocratic. Thats balanced out by the pluses. This is only true is as I said at the outset, you come for at least one reason that fits the plus.
I read a lot of blogs on the island and they are all worth reading, but my pet peave is exemplified by one by an American woman who left the US because of rising health costs and came to Malta. She spends an awful lot of the time complaining how Malta is backward, rude, dirty, this or that. The thing is she gets to live and have health care that she was worried she couldn't afford long term in her own country.
In the end we have choice. If it doesn't work out, go where it is more likely to. It's a big world. Dont make Malta like somewhere else.
It's the classic relationship dilemma. Why spend ages trying to change it into something that you want...that it won't ever really be. Better off finding a new mate that has the qualities you want, or as much of the important ones, from the start.
Sorry for the essay, but I weary of how many people don't seem to get this. It doesn't always work out.